Friday, January 26, 2007

Best of SMS Livedating: Cross Country Ripple Effect Edition


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Does the text-connection transmit, too, rippling waves of possible sex across the nation, nay, even, the world? We offer the following evidence:

10:26pm PST/1:26am EST
not on date: and?

1:43am PST/4:43am EST
on date: he’s a good kisser!
not on date: nice. i’m having weird dreams about sex parties.

… the next day …

on date: sex party dreams? well we did indeed fuck. and then again this morning.
not on date: congrats on the sex.

SMS the love, dear readers, because who knows what might come beaming right back to you. Here’s, in advance, to your good fucking weekend.

Friday, January 26, 2007

That Was the Sex That Was: Sexerati’s Weekly Wrapup


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wrapup-iconTODO this weekend:

Post a hott come-on photo to your pale-blue profiled, socially networked source of dates of choice.

When you’ve got some hits, webstalk your possibilities’ conveniently-aggregated music before you meet, so you can clear all that Postal Service they’ve been listening to all day already off your iPod[1] before they come over.

When they start going off about Ubuntu on your first date, politely bite your tongue, or bite their lip, or their…

Oh! And thinking come Sunday you want to see them again next weekend? It’s never too early to pack your dicks and unpack your tools, and prep for the possibility of the only kind of hacking you can do in the bath without getting shocked. (And if that shocks you? Sleep in, and next Friday, back to step 1.)

[1] I am listening to Morrissey do a 2005 redux of ‘Bigmouth Strikes Again’ as I write this, and even he has revised ‘…and her Walkman started to melt…’ to that other Holy Steve’s portable music iCon. Just saying.

Friday, January 26, 2007

Music To Do It To: Aero Wave


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It’s no secret that the right music can set the tone for the perfect night of getting it on… and that the wrong music can destroy even the best chemistry. But how to find the right music?

Enter “Music To Do It To,” Sexerati’s latest feature. We scour the airwaves (or at least Last.fm Radio) in search of all the hottest make out tracks. Know a band we should feature? Send us a tip.

17811.jpgBand: Aero Wave

Sounds Like: Intense indie-pop vocals over electro-static sounds and beats. Leslie’s voice is soft, beautiful, and seductive, and she sings with a heartbreaking intensity that’s beautifully showcased by her electronic beats.

Perfect For: A hot and heavy make out session. Aero Wave is all about anticipation: a slow, soft build that’s far more satisfying than a quick and easy climax. “Lost Loop” is a particularly good album to listen to when things are getting to that oh-so-close place.

Where to Find It: On MySpace or on Aero Wave’s website.

Thursday, January 25, 2007

Sexerati Interviews: Gina de Vries


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gina de vriesGina de Vries is a queer writer from San Francisco, but in true bicoastal perversion, we met back East when we were both calling the Pioneer Valley of Massachusetts ‘home’ and making trouble in its woods, cafes, and dorms. At the time, she was co-editing, with Diane Anderson-Minshall, [Becoming]: young ideas on gender, identity, and sexuality, and was in the middle of her 7 year tenure as a columnist for Curve magazine. Look for her in Tough Girls 2: Down and Dirty Dyke Erotica, Transforming Communities, Baby, Remember My Name: An Anthology of New Queer Girl Writing, First-Timers, That’s Revolting!: Queer Resistances to Assimilation and The On Our Backs Guide to Lesbian Sex. I interviewed Gina this afternoon, passing a laptop back and forth as we listened to the street cars roll by, back in our real home now, San Francisco.

Finish the following sentence: Gina de Vries is…

A queer writer, activist, and sex nerd from San Francisco who blogs at queershoulder and dreams of one day having a lofty writing job and a clawfoot bathtub.

When did you first know you were a sex nerd?

In my early teens. I was one of those precocious early-nineties sex-positive baby queers raised on Susie Bright and Carol Queen. I’d been doing queer activism forever – mostly around safer school issues – and because of my queer political work, I’d had a lot of interactions with older folks in the bi and trans and leather communities, and gone to riot grrrl conventions, etc. It was those early interactions with older LGBT and leather folks and my involvement in the mid-nineties grrrl scene that really shaped both my sexual and political outlook today… Anyway, I’ve always collected writing and historical memorabilia about sexual minority communities – I’ve got a huge collection of grrrl zines, I still read everything I can get my hands on about queer history, I’m perversely fascinated by bad lesbian separatist books and records – and I had this kind of insane collection of queer and sex books for a teenager. I had a new year’s eve party when I was around sixteen, and a straight girl friend of mine (who has since then become both a dyke and a sex nerd herself) discovered my copy of Sexual State of the Union and started reading sections of it to all of us dramatically. I sort of snatched the book away from her defensively, and said it was really good and earnestly encouraged her to read Susie Bright. And then all these friends of mine started borrowing my Susie Bright books…!
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