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Thursday, November 22, 2007

HOWTO: Be A Camgirl, Camboy, Camwhore, Or What Have You

filed under: HOW TO:, Sexerati Hearts by Melissa Gira | 2 Comments

One from the vaults, to keep you warm while Sexerati HQ moves. Bless you all, and thanks for a year of smart sex.

Taking for granted that you’ve got a computer, an Internet connection, and a desire to be a (little) sexxxy in (sort of) public (hey, you’re reading this), here’s my quickest, dirtiest tutorial on how to be a camgirl, or camboy (how in need the world is!), camwhore, or what have you…

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Monday, October 8, 2007

Wes Anderson, Shoe & Boot Fetishist

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Natalie Portman, getting unzipped at Hotel Chevalier (to be exact, the Raphael Hotel, Paris).

Tuesday, May 22, 2007

Sexerati Is Crushed Out

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Crushed out, meaning, dear sweet fuck, has Spring sprung up so full upon us, with not just strapped-on sandals and heady notions of nonstop skin, but smart, smart ass inspiration in the form of well, what we’ve been reading between the dressing and the undressing:

Shake Well Before Use is Ariel Waldman’s daily compendium of “art, advertising, sex, & technology.” Convergence is the theme: where innovation & sex bleed from boutique to pop, the edge to the mainstream, and then, how sex is sold back to us. She’s sassy as hell, and her Twitters will make you fall in geek love.

Sex and the Ivy is “a bleeding heart nympho’s guide to Harvard life.” Elle’s blog shocks in that it’s so soulful about sex, and not just for those harboring tweedy Cambridge-based fetishes. And I do. But also, clever and taut writing about sex that refuses to turn an eye from the hard bits, physical or emotional? There’s precious little. Bring on the book deal already.

Jezebel, oh Jezebel, you’d been hinted to me long before your perfectly golden and gaudy birth on Monday, and thank fuck, not just for deconstructing what passes for pop media for women (all the while supposedly offering us the same, but you are so much more), but for proof that passionate writing about sexual politics (yes it is) needn’t be bare, pared down, and without flourish & heady pomo reference. My every run-on today is for you.

Monday, March 26, 2007

I Heart Sex; Am I The Only One?

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There’s no such thing as talking too much about sex in a sex-mad world. Sex educators, sex writers, and the sex media are so often in the business of talking and thinking sex, however, that we often forget to say along with that how much we heart sex itself — sex all for its own sake. So let’s get on with it: I love sex, and I know that I can’t be the only one. I love sex, because, rather than all the propaganda about sex bringing disease and despair, science is stepping in to back up what us gleeful sluts have known all along: sex isn’t just good, but good for you. Having a healthy sex life actually makes you more healthy. Sex reduces stress and depression, relieves pain, improves cardio health, and may even slow aging.

Which means, every minute that we spend fearing we aren’t good enough, might get rejected, don’t know how to ask for what we want, we’re literally chipping away at our mental and physical well-being. When we shame others around us for indulging in the sex we ourselves wish we knew how to have, we’re missing out on the chance that sex itself affords us to get over ourselves. That’s what I’m really talking about when I talk about loving sex: that though there’s plenty of guilt, shame, and paralyzing fear going around out there about sex, that it’s through sex that we can start to feel better about ourselves and let go.

Truth is, no one — not even a ’sexpert’ — is born knowing how to get the sex that they want. Getting worked up over not being one of the sexerati is actually a surefire way to continue the kind of complex that will keep you from developing your sex smarts. Don’t just sit around reading blogs and watching internet tv; there’s nothing here that’s going to make you think, feel, or act any different about sex unless you also get out there and practice fucking. Why in every other aspect of our lives do we value the accumulation of experience, but decry sexual experience as evidence of being no more than some kind of sex object, or shameless exhibitionist?

Your assignment, then, if you choose to accept it (and I hope you do, and blog/Flickr/twitter the heck out of it), is to ask someone that you want to kiss for a kiss. Be honest, straightforward, direct. Be seductive, shy, cute. Be whatever comes up naturally. The important thing to do is get over that fear of asking. The world will not end, and hey, you might even have a good time. If we all do it, we might all have a better time. Kiss someone for the sake of it, for the sake of sex, for the sake of your own well-being. Then tell us how it went, okay? We’re all in this sex smart thing together.

Thursday, March 22, 2007

Sexerati Exclusive: ‘In Search of the Wild Kingdom’ Teaser Video Clip

filed under: Erotic Elite, Sexerati Hearts, Smart. Safe. Sex. by Melissa Gira | 2 Comments

Warning, the following may just be too much hotness, too much certainly to contain in just this one little bit of Firefox opened up on the sunniest, sweetest street in the Lower Haight today (of course I blog sex in public), too much hotness for San Francisco, too much hotness for us not to share this gasp, smack, wet-inducing clip that director Shine Houston has delivered to us exclusively from the latest Pink&White Productions feature, In Search of the Wild Kingdom.

Wild Kingdom, in a perfect pomo porno twist, documents the (fictional) documentary of a het girl filmmaker in search of ‘the real lesbians of San Francisco,’ and, of course, the real sex she finds along the way.

So, who videoloves you, baby? Watch the clip now.

Want more, and better yet, more in the company of other fans (and makers) of delectably dirty smut, be sure to hit the Roxie Theatre in San Francisco on March 29th for the world premiere.

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